03/10/2012
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Wayyy off topic…
Okay, I was perusing facebook via my smart phone and I get feeds via the local news channels. This got my attention. (I can’t get the damned thing to post but if you go to wkbt.com you’ll see the video) Some jackass e-mailed a news anchor about her weight. If you go to the website, they have her response. This got my attention for number of reasons. One being some the things I said as a dumb freaking kid that was hurtful. And Lord knows I remember much of what I said. And a lot of the times, I got my ass beat up. And I deserved 90% of them. Which is why I don’t attend high school reunions. Like I need the reminder of the things I said. And probably they have forgotten about it. And this was way before the internet. I would really hate to be growing up in this age of instant anything. And more ways to be hurtful. I’ve grown up a bit and after a few bumps and detours along the way, I’m content with who I am. And I am over-weight. And I can see where people can view how people are via sight. And Lord knows I’m guilty of the same thing. Pre-judging someone without ever taking the time to know someone. Or jumping to conclusions without a safety net. And I didn’t know that the month of October is the month of anti-bullying. I think this got to me more because A. It IS hurtful. and B. All the freaking attack ads by politicians. Or all the ways media/society say how YOU ARE supposed to be. Be either with a family, be a straight person, have the most/best toys, etc. God forbid YOU should choose your own path. And be the person you want to be with having to deal with the judgemental people who say you be what everyone else is. Lemmings off the cliff.
It’s not something I normally post. As I’ve said in the past, I try and keep things light here. If anything, an escape from whatever real life is dealing with. But felt like I had to share that and maybe exorcise a few demons. Not the memories. Those keep me sane. Good and the bad. I threw out the rose colored glasses long time ago. And hopefully remember the past mistakes. And maybe try and be happy in my own skin. Or on a good day, keep my sanity.
At the end of the day, that’s all one can hope for.
Comments (2)
i’ve never been to any of my high school reunions either. i think you’re right that people have probably forgotten (or put way less importance on) whatever things you said/did in those days. we’re all kinds of stupid at that age. anyhow. facebook has made it possible for me to make the following observations: the people i liked back then are still people i like now and the people i didn’t like back then seem pretty much the same. alas, facebook is hardly the place for any deeper understanding. (gotta come to xanga for that)
anyhow. i’ve been thinking about this kind of stuff lately too. sorta working on a story.
incidentally, this is your place, so nothing is off topic.
I saw the video and her response and I just wish I could write her and tell her how great she is. My late sister was extremely overweight due to health issues. When she was in the late stages of her cancer, (when she was up to it), I would take her to the store. She was wheelchair bound so I would push her through the store. People were so cruel. One woman said (loud enough for her to hear), ”You could lose weight if you put the other woman (me) in the chair and pushed her around.” I pretty much lost it.
As for what happened in school, remember what Rafiki (Lion King) would say, “It’s in the past.” (Just let it go).